Forms of Love

1.) Object of Love

Many materials can have love invested in them. What can be deeper than that love is need. If woman love's her garden, and it is destroyed, she will not react with as much sadness or horror as she would if she had deep need invested into something.

This might not always be true, but it might be a principle, to separate material things into how much need is invested in them and how much love is invested in them, this way we might respond to the things we merely love and don't need, when lost or destroyed with less negative emotional repercussions.

This is essentially talking about the love of materials vs. the need of materials, where as in human or social relations though one might feel that love invested into something is more important than needing something from that other.

There might be a tendency between what we love and what we need, but it is not at all times existent. When we love something it means we don't want that thing destroyed, as love is about keeping things as they are. When a child loves a toy bear, for example, it will start to grasp for it when it is taken away or the object is removed for punishment. This is more prevalent the younger the child is into very early infancy. Grasping and forming an emotional attachment with things is part of human development and human nature.

The very existence of grasping, of holding on to, can be source of thinking of things as one's own. Many animals do not have hands to grasp things, instead what becomes objects of love or possessions usually amount to relations and the ends of hunger. This is not true of all animals.

2.) Person of Love

There is tendency in human beings for organisms that reciprocate feelings, either positive or negative, to form positive or negative relationships. When a parent causes pain to the child, it is likely there will exist some hate and aversion towards the parent, where as when a parent causes need fulfillment of the child there is likely a positive relationship bond. I have written about this more in former blogs.

A) Family - It is instinctual and a mechanism of some organisms to be their young and even stay with their mates as their offspring develops into old age. Some creatures, like insects, or turtles, leave their young to fend and grow up by themselves. It is not impossible for these creatures, theoretically, to take on relations with their other members of their species in later life.

B) Friend - Friends are people who do things together, that seek to know each other as to form a greater relation with the person. A rule might follow, that you can't have friends with people you don't know, or you haven't experienced doing things at a specific time and place with. Friends are also regard  for human attributes, such as honesty, trust, encouragement, and consultation.

C) Romantic love - In any relationship that is effected by forms of flattery, approval, or proof of caring for each other, there is the potential for the end of sexual relations. Some one can flatter, be proud of, or admire another person without it being a romantic relationships, though these properties are relevant in the ontology of "romancing."

3.) Self-love

A person that fulfills their needs with success will have a strong sense of security brought on partially by their own efforts. The more successful a person becomes the more their self-esteem tends to rise. Confidence itself may just be a form of self-loving, accepting yourself for what you have done. Their is a culture trend that exists where people reject failure as created by economics and in doing so might reject themselves. Part of being a rational person is rejecting your own failure, and accepting your own success, and in doing either one's confidence may be effected.

It is reasonable to be as proud as your success.

The existence of other approval also can be used as a source of approving and therefore loving yourself. Rousseau made the distinction between these two forms of love. "In Rousseau's philosophy, society's negative influence on men centers on its transformation of amour de soi, a positive self-love, into amour-propre, or pride. Amour de soi represents the instinctive human desire for self-preservation, combined with the human power of reason. In contrast, amour-propre is artificial and encourages man to compare himself to others, thus creating unwarranted fear and allowing men to take pleasure in the pain or weakness of others." - Wiki